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When Grief Shows Up

A few weeks ago, I posted a blog about how Lydia not only repeats what we say now, but she also knows how to use the words and when they’ll make sense in a situation … super scary sometimes! In fact, the other day when she wanted some ice cream cake before dinner, I politely told her no, and then she informed me, “Mommy, you impossible!” She’s learned to say a lot of other things too, in fact sometimes I have to say, “What did you just say?” and I prepare myself for the worst, but other times I smile, because I know she got something from me.

This week I was planning to tell you about my cookie making fun with Lydia, but as our subconscious often does, I was given a different issue to think about this morning. I awoke from a dream in which my sister had died in a car accident, however, in the dream, I was continuing to go on with what I had to do, getting ready to workout for the day and knowing that I’d have to go to work soon. In my dream I questioned how I could still go to work when I’d just lost my sister? Then I woke up, and I remembered, I’d already lost my sister, and then I felt horrible. It was easier in the dream, the reality this morning, was simply a rude reminder of the grief I buckle down each day.

Grief can show up in a lot of ways, it can be a song that reminds you of your loved one. Maybe something you, your family and friends picked out specifically for your loved one’s calling hours, and then out of the blue one day, that song is playing on your radio, and you let that grief come to you. You let yourself tear up or ball. Afterward, you do feel better, you took that time to accept your sorrow.

It could be something someone says. Perhaps they are sharing a special memory of the one you lost. Or perhaps they say something inappropriate that you will have to carry in your own heart now, but that will be okay too. You will learn to wrap yourself in their memories as well. You will learn to keep all of the memories and words from others in a special place in your heart and soul..

Lately, if Lydia spills her snack or juice or you know … anything and makes a mess … I might find myself getting rather upset. “Why did you do that Lydia?” And she will calmly reply, “It’s okay Mommy!” She’ll remind me that it isn’t worth crying over spilled milk. That life is full of little ups and downs. I know she gets that one from me.

There are many times in life when we must simply say, “It’s Okay.”

It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel that pain and let it eat you up … for a little while. It’s okay to share how you feel with a friend or someone you trust. It’s okay to drown yourself in a memory for a while. Just be stronger when you get back up. Don’t let that feeling stay too long. Wrap it up and put it away. The person you love would want you to remember, but they’d also want you to celebrate the rest of the wonderful day you’ve been given.

Your grief will get lighter, your memories will stay, and you will be okay. What more can we ask for? So for a little while today, I know that dream will make me sad, but I’m not going to let it keep me in a gray puddle. I still showed up for my A.M. workout, despite feeling less than positive, I’m going to get my little girl up in a little while, and hug her extra tight. I’m going to envelope myself in happy thoughts and let my passing tears roll away. I suggest the same to you.

Being stronger than you were yesterday, doesn’t merely apply to weights and miles run. It applies to your heart and mind. Start today strong. It will be okay.


21 Day fix · Food & Drink · Time for Mommy · Uncategorized

Five Fall SHAKE Ups

An easy way to pack nutrition into your day and not lose time in the morning, is to begin your day with a smoothie or shake full of vitamins, protein and awesome flavor! Since trying Beachbody, and choosing not to drink Shakeology, I’ve spoken to a lot of people who use a lot of different shakes. Most… Continue reading Five Fall SHAKE Ups

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Pinterest Challenge: Fall Crafts and Decor

I haven’t posted a Pinterest Challenge in a while, but lately I’ve been feeling crafty and my Halloween 2016 board has been growing exponentially. Therefore, the only way to assure myself that I’ll get a few done, is to challenge myself. (Maybe even set a due date …)

Crafting can be relaxing and there’s no better time do it than in the fall, based on several factors. 1. It’s getting cold out, so I’ll be spending less time outdoors. 2. Justin is hunting for venison, so I’ll have more down-time to myself (if Lydia’s asleep). 3. It’s just cozy thinking about doing something crafty this time of the year. And finally, 4. There are craft festivals all over to attend, just waiting to inspire you. (Letchworth Arts and Crafts Festival has been going on forever, I till remember going as a kid!)

Learn how to make this easy rag wreath using strips of fabric.: This weekend, I’ll be getting together with a few friends to make cloth knot wreaths. 20161004_063321Previously I’ve made a flag wreath and this time I’m going to make one for the fall. However, in order to have the wreath serve double duty, I’m also using one bow for Halloween season, and then I’ll switch it out with a Thanksgiving decoration in November. Crafting with friends is good for your soul. I’ll have to make sure to get a warm wine to go along with our crafting! (Any suggestions??)

I’ve also started another craft (started is a very scary word to my husband). I’m making another dual purpose snowman/pumpkin-pile decoration. I had left-over wood from my hutch make-over fiasco, so I drew the shape of a snowman on it, and then asked my dad to cut it out for me. (He even took the time to give it a base white spray paint for me😉 )Dude, so clever. Love decorations that can easily transition from one season to the next!:

With so many fun craft and maybe even DIY gift ideas out there, don’t forget to take advantage of the mood you’re falling into this fall. Pick a pin, pin that pin, and then set a date by which you plan to have it accomplished. You’ll probably enjoy that craft all the Harvest season❤

What crafts or fall recipes have you pinned lately? I think cooking/baking can be just as creative endeavors as cutting and painting. 

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Sick Day with Lydia

Right now I’m getting to write to you, because my little Lydia is sleeping soundly during her nap. If you’re a parent, then you know how sacred this time is. First I had to spend some of this time cleaning up, then I graded essays, and now I’m doing my other “Tuesday” thing to do,… Continue reading Sick Day with Lydia

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The Library, Lydia and Me

All summer I told myself: get your library card renewed! Lydia loves new books and I remembered how much I enjoyed going to the library as a kid. (I still love to go❤ ) And so finally, a few weeks ago after school, I picked up Lydia and took her to our town library. All… Continue reading The Library, Lydia and Me

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How I Cheat, but Still See Results

When you first look at any “diet” or “meal plan” intended to make you drop weight you might find yourself thinking one of these two things: “No way!” or maybe, “I can probably do this…” …Right? Then time goes on … you stick to the plan a day … maybe two, but as the days… Continue reading How I Cheat, but Still See Results

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Absolutely 10 Minute Ab Workouts to Vary Your Routine

Lydia is now 2 and a half years old! She is potty training like a champ and learning new words everyday. This doesn’t make her very different from other toddlers her age, but when you watch your own child varying her vocabulary you start to wonder: where did she learn to say that? Two of… Continue reading Absolutely 10 Minute Ab Workouts to Vary Your Routine